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Our journal of survival.

Transforming Tragedy

Julie Varley

 


The Unexpected Gift That Helped A Grieving Mother Face The World Again
Behind One Family's Extraordinary Commitment To Keep Their Daughter's Dream Alive
How A Father Found His Calling In The Wake Of Unimaginable Heartbreak

Each of the stories in this series is about parents and perhaps the ultimate loss -- the loss of a child. And from each of these stories of deep grief there emerges another story, about the desire to turn tragedy into a chance to help other parents who are suffering the same unfathomable loss.

For a young mother in California, that means working to “move forward” with her grief by handcrafting gifts for other bereaved parents. For a Philadelphia couple, that means preserving their daughter’s legacy through a modest charity that has grown larger than any of them thought possible. And for a New York City father, that means changing careers in middle age, trading his dream job for more personally meaningful line of work. “It feels like I'm working for him -- for Jacob," he says.

Each loss is individual, but taken together, these stories show how a journey through inward grief can lead to outward connection. While these stories cannot capture the fullness of these families’ heartbreaks, we hope the series highlights and honors the strength and selflessness they have in common.

- Julie Varley -  Excerpt from Huffington Post

 

If you have a story to share, or simply need to reach out to talk to someone, we are here to listen to you. Please fill out the confidential contact form and we will get back to you as soon as possible. Thank you for visiting our site, we hope it was helpful. If you have lost a loved one to suicide, we are so very sorry for your loss.

After

Julie Varley

After

    By Nancy Hiron

                                                              

The Early Months

I am sitting in my chair watching television.

It’s been three months since Pete’s passing.

I keep expecting Pete to come around the edge of

The patio doors saying “joke!” with a big grin on his face.

This expectation stayed with me for at least 6 months.

 

The Note

Pete did not leave a note. How much I had wished for an “I love you Mom” note.

He would have been psychotic at the time and I knew that.

It is now five years since Pete’s passing.

I stopped searching for the note last year.

 

Reconciliation

It is an impossible task being left to reconcile the suicide of your child.

I have devoted five years to reconciling Pete’s death.

I could have been a lawyer by now for all the arguments I’ve settled in my mind.

 

I have surfaced from these murky times,

 Five years later,

 A much more humane human being.

And I am alive.

And I have joy.

 

  • Nancy Hiron

 

 

 

If you have a story to share, or simply need to reach out to talk to someone, we are here to listen to you. Please fill out the confidential contact form and we will get back to you as soon as possible. Thank you for visiting our site, we hope it was helpful. If you have lost a loved one to suicide, we are so very sorry for your loss.

Insight into Anxiety and Stress with Kids

Julie Varley

The Today Show ran a series this week on Mental Health and some of the things kids are currently doing to alleviate their pain.  I found it very insightful.

The crippling problem your teen may be hiding from you.

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If you have a story to share, or simply need to reach out to talk to someone, we are here to listen to you. Please fill out the confidential contact form and we will get back to you as soon as possible. Thank you for visiting our site, we hope it was helpful. If you have lost a loved one to suicide, we are so very sorry for your loss.