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Welcome to How We Survive, an online resource for survivors of suicide.  


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How to Help Someone that has Suicidal Thoughts


Our journal of survival.

How to Help Someone that has Suicidal Thoughts

Julie Varley

Suicide is a taboo subject yet talking about it openly is helpful. A person contemplating suicide needs the support of people who listen and care. If you are concerned that someone you know may be suicidal, take action.  Find a place to talk where the person feels comfortable, they need to know that you respect their need for privacy, encourage the individual to express their feelings freely – the single most important thing you can do is to listen attentively without judgment ask them whether they have considered suicide – bringing up the subject will not cause them to act upon it.  Talk to them about your concern and fears – they need to know that someone cares - ask whether there is anything you can do talk about the resources that can give them support – family, friends, clergy, counseling or psychiatric treatment let them know that you are there to support them, but also know your limits – you cannot do it alone - See more at:






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