HoW We Survive

Welcome to How We Survive, an online resource for survivors of suicide.  


London
Canada

A community for survivors of suicide.

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Blog

Our journal of survival.

Christmas Thoughts....

Julie Varley

Beyond the twinkling lights, the red and green candles, the poignant aroma of evergreen...

Beyond the Christmas trees, the angels, stars and beloved carols,

Beyond the presents, the shopping, the baking and cooking

Beyond all of these sights and sounds of Christmas

Beyond all of these.. there is HOPE

Hope.... it is HOPE that sustains us through the days of grief, anger, frustration and loneliness.

The HOPE that some day the pain of the deaths of our children will be eased.

The HOPE is that someday our smiles will be real.

The HOPE that once again we will laugh,  love and cry completely without fear and hollowness.

It is the HOPE that someday we can remember our children with tenderness merely tinged with sorrow and not overwhelmed with it.

So it is that for each of you I would wish HOPE,  peace, compassion, love, sympathy understanding, sharing and listening.

In the sharing of our grief with one another and in the emotional support we give to one another, we receive and learn all of these gifts.

Take care of You.. Love, Peace and HOPE to all of You...

- Julie -

If you have a story to share, or simply need to reach out to talk to someone, we are here to listen to you. Please fill out the confidential contact form and we will get back to you as soon as possible. Thank you for visiting our site, we hope it was helpful. If you have lost a loved one to suicide, we are so very sorry for your loss.

How to Help Someone that has Suicidal Thoughts

Julie Varley

Suicide is a taboo subject yet talking about it openly is helpful. A person contemplating suicide needs the support of people who listen and care. If you are concerned that someone you know may be suicidal, take action.  Find a place to talk where the person feels comfortable, they need to know that you respect their need for privacy, encourage the individual to express their feelings freely – the single most important thing you can do is to listen attentively without judgment ask them whether they have considered suicide – bringing up the subject will not cause them to act upon it.  Talk to them about your concern and fears – they need to know that someone cares - ask whether there is anything you can do talk about the resources that can give them support – family, friends, clergy, counseling or psychiatric treatment let them know that you are there to support them, but also know your limits – you cannot do it alone - See more at:

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If you have a story to share, or simply need to reach out to talk to someone, we are here to listen to you. Please fill out the confidential contact form and we will get back to you as soon as possible. Thank you for visiting our site, we hope it was helpful. If you have lost a loved one to suicide, we are so very sorry for your loss.

The Gut Wrenching Pain

Julie Varley

The Gut Wrenching Pain?

              Nancy Hiron

That gut wrenching pain….

What you are feeling is normal following a loved one’s passing by suicide.

It is awful. You become riddled with guilt, the if’s and the should of’s.

This is normal. 

 

The hamster wheel in your brain slows after hours of silent

Processing. Hours of rationalizing every harsh interaction you may

Have had over someone else’s life. We all do it.

This is normal.

 

Over and over and over. You want to dissect out loud

Every last micro second of their life.

To anyone who will listen. The listeners become tired.

This is normal.

 

This is your designer journey.

You think it is your fault this happened?

We all think that at first.

This is normal.

 

Humans have been living with

This disease for all of time.

Humans have survived this

Journey for all of time.

This is normal for humans.

 

How could you ever be happy again?

I thought that too.

I am happy again. My hamster wheel

Rarely spins. I grew potatoes this year.

 

We are humans.

We do figure it out.

How to be happy again.

This is normal

If you have a story to share, or simply need to reach out to talk to someone, we are here to listen to you. Please fill out the confidential contact form and we will get back to you as soon as possible. Thank you for visiting our site, we hope it was helpful. If you have lost a loved one to suicide, we are so very sorry for your loss.